Are men doing enough????

 This Blog post is going to be more of my stream of thought, but I think it will be interesting to read. We read “I Want a Wife” in class. It was about society's unrealistic expectations on women and wives and how they should do everything to support their husband’s goals. Society expects women to clean the house, cook, stay home and take care of the kids, take care of their partner's hygiene and cut their hair.

After reading the passage, I had some self reflection and I realized how spoiled I am. Although I do some of the house chores(like vacuuming the house and cleaning the bathroom), I realized that if I had to live alone, I would not be able to survive. I do not know how to cook(unless you count ramen or like throwing rice into a cooker cooking), I do not how to work a washing machine, I can kind of fold clothes, I do not regularly do the dishes, I barely know how to find good outfit for the day, and if my mom did not force me to let her cut my hair, my hair would be in an even bigger mess. I’d say I’m a very messy guy. The worst part is that society normalizes men not doing anything that I just listed. I should not be content to live this way. I have to learn how to cook, and have proper hygiene and work around the house a bit more not only to push against societal norms but for myself as well. I don’t want to go to college and just survive off of ramen packs and live in an absolute dumpster fire of a dorm. 

I stumbled upon a tik tok where a guy was saying how low the bar is for men. He talked about the time he had a girl over and how she was surprised because he had a couch and he could cook a decent meal. He said he honestly did not do much. He just had better hygiene and was more organized than the average guy. His couch was an old couch from his mom and the meal he cooked took 5 mins to make. He said he literally did the bare minimum and the girl was head over heels for him. This low standard for men to be organized is due to society expecting women to do everything for men. 

SO what’s the lesson here? I should probably learn how to cook and do the laundry and also learn how to do my hair. Personal hygiene is also pretty important because I’m a pretty stinky guy. I feel like this is all about becoming an adult and functioning independent human being. I hope many other guys(or girls)can relate with me or maybe I’m just the only one that struggles with not knowing how to do these basic house chores.

now enjoy this photo of a man doing laundry. I had to search up "man doing laundry" to find this.